And we are back! Sorry for the unintentional pause on this series. My Sundays got a little crazy and I wasn’t as prepped as I was in October. Back to your regularly scheduled Warrior Queen breakdown: Do what’s best for you!
Last year, I decided to break down the meaning of Warrior Queen with a series of posts. I wrote this definition in 2008 and have been fine-tuning it ever since. If you’ve been feeling confused about the meaning of warrior queen or how to be a warrior queen, please feel free to read the overview on the movement.
I’d love for you to follow along with the weekly breakdown! Here is a schedule:
March 4, 2015: Be the Best of You
April 1, 2015: Be Strong
August 31, 2015: Embrace Heartbreak
October 5, 2015: Don’t Restrict Yourself
October 12, 2015: Make Your Own Decisions
October 19, 2015: Never Regret
October 26, 2015: Show Your Emotions
November 2, 2015: Fall in Love
November 30, 2015: Do What’s Best For You
December 7, 2015: Never Intentionally Hurt Another
December 14, 2015: Change is Necessary
December 21, 2015: With Grace
December 28, 2015: Never Feel Inferior
January 4, 2015: See the Good
January 11, 2015: Do Good
January 18, 2015: Love With Every Ounce
January 25, 2015: Stand Up For Your Beliefs
The dates may change, but I will try to keep this list as up to date as possible!
You must always do what is best for you. Do it gracefully.
Life likes to throw us curveballs. Life likes to put us in sticky situations. Life really likes to make us choose.
Oftentimes, our choices have the potential to hurt another, unintentionally. (Next week we’ll be talking more about that.)
So how do we make these tough decisions and do what’s best for ourselves?
Reflect on how we got here.
I know I’m all about self-reflection, but that’s because it works! Self-reflection, knowing yourself and admitting to yourself are pivitol in self-love and living a full life.
When it comes to making important decisions, we need to sit down (or go for a jog) and think of how we got to this point. What events led to this tough decision?
Self-reflection is constant, just as change is constant. We are always growing and changing!
Make a pro/con list.
There’s a reason they teach us how to make pro/con lists in elementary school – because they are SO helpful in categorizing information. In high school, I was the queen of pro/con lists. I even created a master positive bin / negative bin list to constantly evaluate my life, my decisions and who was in it.
Sleep on it.
This one’s pretty easy. Set aside your self-reflection and pro/con list and take a nap or get a good night’s sleep. Do something that refreshes you and takes your mind off of it. In your gut, you know what the right choice is. You just need some time to get there.
Soul talks for the win.
Oh, soul talks have a big part of my heart. If I could have deep conversations, revealing my soul every day, I would.
Deep conversations and hashing it out with your friends or family members is important. When you talk things out, just like writing it out, you solidify your reasonings and learn more about your why. Bonus, your friends and family have your best interest at heart. They can be more objective or more biased and lead you on your path.
Do it! Now’s the time! You now know what is the best for you.
To those who watch me make decisions, it may seem like I skip some of these tips since I make decisions fairly fast. I’m an overthinker and an overtalker. Before I start hashing it out, I’ve spent a ton of hours thinking about it.
For example, when my Ohio house was on fire and later that day I decided to move back to California. Everyone kept telling me I was being rash, but realistically, the house fire was the final event that convinced me to move home. Quite a few events and months of feeling like I didn’t belong there preceded my decision.
On the opposite side of that, I stayed with a boyfriend 2 years longer than most people thought I should.
I know myself, though and I often go with my gut. It hasn’t steered me wrong, yet. For me, I just know when something is right for me. I hope that you can develop the same intuition with yourself. Years of self-reflection has made me in tune.
Do you have a strong sense of intuition? Tell me about it in the comments!